Kudos to the U.S. Supreme Court for getting it right: people who love one another and want to enter into a marital commitment should be allowed to do so. I’ve actually been surprised at some who have expressed dismay with this decision. People who have often presented themselves as loving, tolerant and accepting have shown that they certainly are not.
The government got into the marriage business a long time ago. I understand the argument that the government shouldn’t be involved. Perhaps it wouldn’t be necessary if couples could end marriages without needing a judge to make decisions for them.
The opposition to same-sex marriage is generally attributed to religious views. It’s important to remember that the court shouldn’t legislate religious views. But those who are opposed to same sex marriage want the court to endorse their views.
Marriage is a civil arrangement. It’s a legal contract. For the more spiritual, it’s also a way of committing to their faith through a romantic and familial union. That’s wonderful for those who make that choice. I wouldn’t try to take that away from those couples.
It troubles me that the most religious are the most opposed to same sex unions. One would think that those with great faith would be the most tolerant, loving and accepting of others. Apparently that attitude applies only to those whose views and lifestyles are akin to theirs.
The majority decision said it best: No union is more profound than marriage, for it embodies the highest ideals of love, fidelity, devotion, sacrifice, and family. In forming a marital union, two people become something greater than once they were. As some of the petitioners in these cases demonstrate, marriage embodies a love that may endure even past death. It would misunderstand these men and women to say they disrespect the idea of marriage. Their plea is that they do respect it, respect it so deeply that they seek to find its fulfillment for themselves. Their hope is not to be condemned to live in loneliness, excluded from one of civilization’s oldest institutions. They ask for equal dignity in the eyes of the law. The Constitution grants them that right.
There are lots of arguments against same-sex marriage. None make much sense. Some surround the issue of procreation. Those who think marriage is only about having children are shortchanging themselves.
Proponents of same-sex marriage cross religious, cultural and political boundaries. I know a conservative Republican who wants his gay son to be able to marry to person he loves, a conservative Jewish man (also a Republican) who is married to a man, and a devout Pentecostal (a former Republican) who has been out of the closet more than decade. I won’t even go into the Biblical references to same-sex couples.
The bottom line is this: as someone who has been married twice and who is currently in a long-term relationship but chooses not to be married, I admire those who want to make the commitment to marriage so badly that they fought a decades-long court battle to win the right to marry the one they love.
Let’s be loving, accepting and tolerant of our friends, relatives and neighbors who want their commitment to be recognized as just as important as everyone else’s.